Dating six years no proposal
I told him that, regardless of what the future holds, I won’t regret any of the time we’ve had together because I love him.
So I realized that I said I’d wait for him, but I still find myself trying to pressure him to take the next step.
Maybe he doesn't believe in the institution of marriage, maybe he's just commitment phobic or maybe he believes that all marriages are meant to fail. Thats completely enought to get to know each other and to understand if you really wanna marry that person.
Either way, if the two of you are on opposite ends when it comes to the very idea of marriage, chances are you may never get him to change his mind. The reason he says is that "i'm ...#6 that is exactly what happened with my last boyfriend.
Cutting him off after a few months because he’s not positive that she’s “the one”? Which is why it’s so comfortable for him to keep things exactly the way they are now. And like you said, it’s all bullshit excuses he’s giving.
Or patiently allowing him to fall in love with her, to consider her his best friend, to know that he can’t picture his life without her? I proposed to my wife after 14 months because my girlfriend was 38, we both wanted kids, and I was a dating coach who finally figured out what was important in life. I have three very close friends who were with their girlfriends for 3 years before proposing. The problem is that it’s not comfortable for you to walk this tightrope, investing more and more time with a man who is not ready to commit. This is just moving deck chairs around the Titanic, spinning wheels, making noise. If a man wants to do something and if he’s so into a woman and fear of losing her, he’ll do anything in his might to keep her.
), where she mentioned how her relationship started…seeing each other once a week, then twice a week, then three times a week.
We discussed moving in together when my lease is up in October, but now I know he’s not ready. I tell him that he can still have that if we’re living together, but he’s still not sure when he’ll be ready. He feels really strongly about living with me and equates it to marriage.
He said he’s not worried, that if we move in together, he’s sure we’ll stay together, like it’s a forever thing.
Right now we see each other 4-5 times a week, and I mostly I stay at his place.
He also has this professional project that’s a big priority.