Dating a married man who is separated
Messages that made his phone vibrate at all times of the day and night. Not because I doubted his feelings for me - when I am my rational self, I have complete faith in the bond between us - but because I could never doubt his commitment to his children or fail to recognize the guilt he has felt since he walked out of the family home all those months ago.
We started talking, then texting, and he told me straight-up that he'd been separated for six months. I would text him something funny to start off the day, and we would spend the majority of the day talking about what made each other tick. We shared the little things, the childhood things, the adult things, the big things. I was high on the spark between us and thrilled by the potential of what might be.It was no laughing matter, but I didn't know that yet.Often these people have been unhappy and missing love, companionship and sex for a longtime, and so there's a real pent-up, unmet need for love. And feeling urgency to find them when they’ve been denied to you for a long time is also normal. Moving too quickly into a new relationship is almost always a bad idea, and those relationships rarely last.Since I counsel men and women before, during and after a relationship or marriage, including through a divorce, I frequently see people dating when separated.