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Forgive as the Lord forgave you.” This includes a former boyfriend or girlfriend, especially if yours is the broken heart. Don’t assume that after the breakup, you must go to another church.
It is possible to stay in the same church with the person you once dated.
If you are not sure how to do this, find an older, godly Christian man or woman and ask them for help.
“I talked to X about this, and he/she thinks we should break up.” It’s tempting to do this rather than taking responsibility oneself.
As hard as this is, he is making you more like his Son. With the pain and sorrow over the lost relationship, you might just want to be with your ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend.
As a general rule of thumb, if you stick a lot of single men and women in the same building, they’re usually going to spend time together and eventually get married. And sadly, Christians can too often look like the world when it comes to breaking up. What would it mean to break up for the glory of God? How do you end the relationship in a way that is God-honoring and honoring of the other person, especially since he or she is a brother or sister in Christ?
It is not wrong to go to another church, but we don’t want to presume that is the only thing you can really do after a breakup. Remember that regardless of how painful the breakup may be, God is using this difficult experience to sanctify you.
Paul says in Romans , “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.” Your breakup is included in this phrase “all things.” If you are a Christian, God is using this experience for your good.
Too many people assume that they must leave because of how uncomfortable it is initially.
It’s easier to run and avoid than to do the hard work of living “at peace” with one another, and eventually (sometimes years later), again being friends.